Wendy, I appreciate the way you have acknowledged the ego-link (my term) between a head of hair and our sense of self. You did not dismiss the emotional cost of the choice before you. You acknowledged it and allowed it to accompany you as you made a difficult decision. I welcome your " Incredible Shrinking Hair" but humbly suggest that there is no "Shrinking Self" here.
It also occurs to me that it was never your hair or body parts that revealed your identity. It was always the wit, the giggle, the,wisdom, the caring., Your warm sparkle and keen mind. I miss you, Wendy!
Yes, yes, yes! So I’m basically here all day everyday except Wednesday 9 AM exercise class. Can we zoom or FaceTime? I miss both of you and would love to see you! Let’s do it!
Kind of the same thing only the opposite happened to me. When I took ngakma vows , I asked for special permission to keep my hair short since it was such an important part of my queer identity. But during the pandemic, I couldn’t go have it cut. It is longer than it’s ever been in my life! I guess the dakinis got their way after all! Thank you for sharing this.
Thank you, Clare. And thank you for sharing your story. I had noticed the longer hair on Facebook posts. I chuckle about this now because I remember how you used to nudge me to say it was time for me to get a haircut!
Wendy, I appreciate the way you have acknowledged the ego-link (my term) between a head of hair and our sense of self. You did not dismiss the emotional cost of the choice before you. You acknowledged it and allowed it to accompany you as you made a difficult decision. I welcome your " Incredible Shrinking Hair" but humbly suggest that there is no "Shrinking Self" here.
It also occurs to me that it was never your hair or body parts that revealed your identity. It was always the wit, the giggle, the,wisdom, the caring., Your warm sparkle and keen mind. I miss you, Wendy!
Thank you, Dearheart! I miss you, too. We both miss you. We need to set-up a zoom call to connect!
Yes, yes, yes! So I’m basically here all day everyday except Wednesday 9 AM exercise class. Can we zoom or FaceTime? I miss both of you and would love to see you! Let’s do it!
Love from your dear❤️,
Xo😘
Wendy is a long time teacher/friend and I value her insights! ❤️
Kind of the same thing only the opposite happened to me. When I took ngakma vows , I asked for special permission to keep my hair short since it was such an important part of my queer identity. But during the pandemic, I couldn’t go have it cut. It is longer than it’s ever been in my life! I guess the dakinis got their way after all! Thank you for sharing this.
Thank you, Clare. And thank you for sharing your story. I had noticed the longer hair on Facebook posts. I chuckle about this now because I remember how you used to nudge me to say it was time for me to get a haircut!